Separation Anxiety

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Since before I had my baby I decided to stay home with him for a few years to be able to take care of him and watch him grow everyday, something I knew I wouldn’t be able to do if I stayed at my previous job.

I don’t regret this decision at all. I was there when he mumbled his first word, when he started trying to roll over and crawled. I watched every step he took trying to stand up on his own and was there when he took his first step. I knew these moments were priceless and I wouldn’t want to miss them for the world.

But this decision also had to come with, well I don’t want to call it a negative side, but it came with a package.

He got very attached to me, which is a normal thing, a child would always be attached too his care giver, but his fear of separation is not helping me get anything done sometimes. He would really get upset if I left without him or let him play in the playground with his nanny. he would cry and refuse to play.

It breaks my heart when I see him like that but I cant be around him 24/7 ! I want him to be social and not too attached to me or his dad.

It even got worse when his nanny left he got even more attached to us, me and his father, and now that the new nanny is here he really hates her and wont give her a chance. even though she is trying but he wont let her changes his clothes or feed him.I cant leave him with her anywhere he would cry non stop even if my parents were there to watch over him :(

I thought about getting him into a nursery but I just cant see that happening I wouldn’t bare leaving him crying for hours I’m afraid his fears would get even worse. He will be 2 years old in September so he cant talk or understand that I will be back if I left.

I read over the internet some articles about toddlers separation anxiety  and I hope the tips I got will do some good. I know for sure they will take time and a bit of a cold heart :((

 

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  1. You are his mother, and its good he’s attached to you . What you are going through is very normal.
    Whatever you decide to do it should be gradual. Take him to nursery but make sure you stay with him. I stayed with mine the first 3 months.
    Dont forget he is still young, dont rush things and enjoy him.
    God Bless

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  2. I’m really glad he is attached to me and not his nanny and I do love that he prefers me rather than anyone else but I also want him to be social and not fear people. I really don’t have the heart to leave him at a nursery now. I think I will have to stay with him there for a while like you suggusted ..thank you so much for the tips dear I really appreciate it :*

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